Last night, superstar Selena Gomez reminded us how important it is to work on our own mental health.
Getting consumed in our own lives is a part of being human. And to be honest, that is okay. However, it is always important to have some small reminder to add a dose of compassion to our daily lives.
Life can feel like a mini tornado at times. And because we have so much going on it is easy to forget to be gentle with others.
My best example of this is when we are driving in the car. For instance, if I am driving down the highway and someone speeds past me my immediate reaction is, “what a maniac!” However, because I don’t have all of the information I may be making a hasty impression. Maybe this driver is late for work, or they are rushing to see a sick loved one. Now mind you, they may just be a reckless driver, but it is always good to add little room to breath.
The Thing about People
People are much like this car driving down the highway. Because we rarely actually have all the information, we cannot make quick assumptions and take them for fact.
At the 2016 American Music Awards Selena Gomez reminded us, no matter how shiny the outside, we still do not know what it is like to be in someone else’s shoes.
“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about.”
Selena Gomez Captivates 2016 AMA Audience
Here is what Selena Gomez had to say after winning favorite rock/pop female artist.
“I kept it all together enough to where I would never let you down,” she said.
There is something so powerful about how candidly Selena delivered her message. These are the types of conversations we need to continue to have.
There has been a rise in the awareness of mental health but the conversation is far from over.
“But I kept it too much together to where I let myself down. I had to stop, because I had everything and I was absolutely broken inside.”
My Personal Journey to Strong Mental Health
Personally, I have been working through some tough times in my own life. I find myself reading more about how to be better as an individual. Particularly how to stifle co-dependance and anxiety. This work has already proven to be very beneficial.
The truth is, we never know exactly what is going on in someone else’s head. And because of this, we must remember to think before we place judgement.
Recently I had a friend say, “I want to trade lives with you.” This completely threw me for a loop!
“I want to trade lives with you.”
I had not seen this friend for awhile and this statement was based purely on the images she had seen on social media. I preach all the time social media must be kept at an arms length and this is the reason why. Trust me when I say, your life will always look better on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter whatever.
This friend was being kind but it seemed like she was being too hard on herself. Not placing judgements on me but rather on where she was in her own life. One of the most important things to remember is, when being compassionate we cannot forget ourselves in this equation.
Positive & Negative Judgements
Perception is a mysterious cape that can mask the truth of reality. I am certainly not putting myself on the level of Selena but in a way, these two examples are similar. Selena’s fans may perceive her life as the ultimate life to live. My friend saw my social media and assumed that everything must be so great in my life, she would desire to trade hers in.
Perception is a mysterious cape that can mask the truth of reality.
However, without all of the information we cannot jump to conclusions. Selena Gomez is now finding refuge in rehab. She has taken a career break to focus on her own personal mental health. And she has now spoken out about what she has been going through mentally, following her Lupus diagnosis.
And for myself, though I truly am happy with a large chunk of my life and the path it is on. There are somethings right now I am personally struggling with more than I have ever have before. I suppose your 20’s will do that to you! And there have been times when I have questioned whether I would make it through. But, this is truly a part of life and a part of being human and growing. We grow in times of pain.
If you need to cry, cry and if you want to smile, smile! Holding back emotions sucks, so just feel it out! Sometimes the reality is we have to put on a brave face to get through the day. But I highly suggest avoiding faking it too much.
I understand my friend was just being positive and kind in this scenario. I fully thank her for putting a smile on my face. The only thing I discourage in this interaction is the fact that in her mind, she put her value under her perceived notion of mine. I am also guilty for doing this with others. Because it is so much easier to just believe the hype.
I have no actual statistical research but, I wouldn’t doubt 99.9% of people have something going on in their life they would desire to change or move past. This is just a part of being human. And this is why we must show compassion to others. Because again, everyone is fighting a battle we know nothing about.
We should applaud Selena Gomez for being so open and honest about her action to work on her mental health. I am a true believer that everyone should see someone to talk about their own mental health. However, I wasn’t always this way! I am quite stubborn so to be honest, it took some time before I took the step to see someone.
We can always work on ourselves even if we are not going through something major life crisis. It could simply be just working on being more assertive and less passive. Going to touch base with a professional can also just be like an annual checkup!
If you are going through something, do not fear seeking help. Embrace it! You will be stronger when you come out the other end. And I promise you will really grow to like this new version of you.
Sending you all so much love and positivity!